The Lie Women Were Told About Feminine Energy

Feminine energy doesn't repel masculinity, it dances with it. When you are connected to your intuition and respond to life from a place of choice, you are flowing in the rivers of divine femininity.

That beautiful flow of feminine energy comes to a jarring halt the moment a woman believes she has no choice. The moment she believes her voice doesn't matter. The moment she shrinks herself to fit inside the illusion of society's cage.

Ten years ago I was a single mom performing all of society's definitions of ‘dad’ things. I fixed the roof and killed the bugs and changed the oil and took out the trash and paid the bills. From the outside, I looked extremely capable. Inside was a different story.

Underneath that capable exterior, I felt “Poor me, I have to do everything all by myself. I'm all alone and there's nothing I can do about it.” Every story I told myself was laced with the belief that the suffering was noble. The suffering meant I was a good mom. Oh the pleasure I took in telling people I did everything all by myself.

Looking back, I can see that I had people I could've asked for help. But I never did. Back then, I would have never admitted this, but on some level I knew the more I suffered, the more empowered I felt. I thought that if I proved to myself and the world, that I could do it "all by myself" then I would be worthy.

Today, I have a different story.

I still kill the bugs and fix the leaks, but I am fully aware that it is my choice. I don't do these things because I have to, and not because I have something to prove. I do these things because I want to.

I choose to do these things because they brings me a new kind of joy. Joy in knowing it is my choice. And sometimes, even though I’m capable, I ask for help and I am happy to receive that help. Today, my priority is ease. Today my priority is my peace.

If resting or having fun has fallen too far down the list, then I ask for help to get the job done faster so I can do the things that bring me joy.

I prioritize me.

I speak up.

I receive without guilt or obligation.

My old subconscious programming was this:

“I’ll do it all, but I’ll also suffer so you notice.”

That program drains feminine energy faster than responsibility ever could, because it abandons the Self. And I will never again abandon my Self.

I’ve learned that feminine energy disappears when we think choice disappears.

A woman in her feminine energy allows herself to rest, to experience pleasure, and to speak her truth.

She doesn’t wait for permission.

She needs no recognition.

She flows through her life taking in all the beautiful and not so beautiful scenes.

She observes and responds only to that which brings her peace.

She no longer lends herself to that which she wishes to be free from.

She fills her life with love and bravery.

She leads a life uncommon.

And the lie women were told?

That being strong means doing it all alone. That suffering makes us a good person. That doing everything makes you worthy.

It doesn’t. It disconnects you from yourself.

Because feminine energy was never about what you do.

It was always about whether you believe you have a choice.

And over time, this isn’t just something you feel emotionally.

It becomes something your body begins to express for you.

The body has its own way of showing us where we’ve been pushing… and where we’ve forgotten how to receive.